Handle kids with challenging behavior. Being a parent is a big responsibility, and almost everyone is aware of this fact. What is more challenging is inculcating good habits in the mind of toddlers. Parents getting too defensive or too protective when it comes to their child is not appreciated because, after a certain point of time, this overprotective behavior gives rise to one of the reasons for a kid’s challenging and rebellious rude behavior. We understand that no parent will ever want any harm to their child, but at the same time, parents must realize that things have changed with time, and so has parenting. Gone are those days when the reply of every argument or discussion with your father ends up with a slap. Parenting itself is a debatable topic, and every kid is different from the other. So, no formula can be applied for good parenting. Parents might argue that the way they grew up, that is with sticks and slaps worked for them, hence might also work for their kids, which is straight away wrong. We also understand at the same point of time that the approach towards every kid should be different. Few kids need a strict approach while on the other hand, few kids need a normal friendlier approach. Under no circumstances, raising your hands to introduce the idea of strictness into the mind of your toddlers is recommended.
Before we comment on what must be done to counter challenging behaviour, we need to understand the cause of the challenging behaviour in the first place. A child’s behaviour can be different for various reasons, most of the time it is because a kid does not know how to express their emotion or channelise their anger or unsatisfaction. That leads to the foul mood of the kid which in return ends up being rebellious. Being strict and being discipline are two different things. You can be friendly to your kid and still make your child discipline. First thing first, talk to them, instead of yelling at them from a distance, come close make them sit and convey what they have done wrong. Making them understand the difference between right and wrong at a very young age can be helpful as when they grow up, they will not be burdened with bad habits. Habits are inherited by your kids, the way they see you. What is important is how you behave in front of your kids because the kids grow under your shadow. Before you teach your kids, what etiquettes are, first try to set an example before your kids. Shouting in front of your kids, not keeping your dishes properly after eating them, not expressing your messages properly, throwing your clothes here and there all are the signs that you show in dismay. The same signs that you show for disapproval are caught by your kid and the same reactions are reciprocated when they want to disapprove of something.
At a very young age, kids start developing likes and dislikes and as a matter of fact, it can be against certain food items, or behavior, or lifestyle. Parents need to understand that a very on the face kind of parenting is not preferred amongst the kids of this generation. If you are not happy with the behavior of your child, you need to communicate well with your toddler. Good habits are taught, instead of expecting your child to follow random instruction, explain to them why they should do that in the first place. For example, if you want your child not to sulk while eating healthy food, you need to make them understand why healthy food is necessary for them, and what will be the consequences if you do not eat healthy food. Well, the very next question that arises is how you expect a child to understand the consequences of not eating healthy food. Well, the simple answer is when we were kids, we used to think that the mouse or a wish-granting angel used to take our teeth. As we grew up, we read that it is a natural process and every human went through the same stage. If your kid watches a cartoon, build a story around the consequences of not eating healthy food on the same ground. Convey them through the language they understand. The same logic can be applied to any good habits you want to inculcate in your kid’s daily life.
The fear of getting scold, fear of getting underground, or the fear of getting beaten affects a kid’s psychology to an extent that they start hiding things, and once they start hiding things from their parents it becomes next to impossible to bridge the gap. In a long run, the small gap will lead to massive turmoil between the kid and the parents. If you are friendly with your kid from the beginning, you will always have a rough idea as to what is your kid’s friend circle. Who are the people with whom he hangs out, what are the things that are happening in their school? A kid who can share anything with their parents is a blessing for the kid, and we at Happy Hours urge our toddlers’ parents to be friendly with their kids and once they are friendly with their kids, the day-to-day challenges you face at home with regards to your child’s behavior will get easy.